Different Kind of Father’s Day…

(This was originally a guest post I wrote over at my buddy Brandon’s blog this week but I wanted to post here too on Fathers Day.   Hope all you dad’s have a great day!!)

When Brandon ask me if I would be willing to write a post about what Father’s Day means to me I seriously thought this post would have been a piece of cake.  Out of everything I have been writing over the past couple years writing a post on Father’s Day should be not and issue at all. And then I start writing and all I have in front of me is a blinking cursor.

Since Gavin died all of holiday’s have a different meaning to them…but Father’s Day changed dramatically after he passed.  I think for most people Father’s Day is just a holiday were you get your dad a card or call him up and say Happy Dad’s Day.  But for me it is a reminder of how am I doing as a parent.   How am I doing at directing Madi’s, Gavin, and now Angela’s towards what really matters.  I’ll be the first to admit I lose my temper with Madison sometimes when she just keeps pushing my buttons, and I have asked her to forgive me several times after I have said something completely wrong to her.  I want to know how I am doing at directing her towards Christ… towards being a good girl, and towards growing up to be a good teenage girl. (Lord help me when she becomes a teenager)

So for me I take Father’s Day more as a day to be reflective.  Makes me think about how fast time has gone.  How quickly my children have grown up.  This year will be my second Father’s Day since Gavin has been gone.  I miss that little guy more than anything in the world, and having him helped me become the dad I am today.  I know that God’s plan for me was to be Gavin’s Dad.  He knew that I had something inside of me to be able to handle what He had in store for Gavin.  Which flash forward to now and it has prepared me to be a Dad to Angela.  So Father’s Day is a happy day but it also makes me miss the little guy who had helped mold me into the guy I am today.

I just want to encourage you Dad’s out there.  At some point during all the cards, food and relaxing take some time to reflect how your kids have changed you.  Reflect how have you changed your kids, and if there are some aspects that you need to work on.  We are all a work in progress and we owe to ourselves to be the best we can be for our families, and ourselves.

3 Responses to “Different Kind of Father’s Day…”

  1. Moe
    June 20, 2011 at 9:50 am #

    Hope you had a great day. You are blessed with beautiful children. If you want a NYC child I”m available… just saying!

  2. dustin
    June 20, 2011 at 4:11 pm #

    Agreed. You are one blessed man, Adam.

  3. whatistheretodowhenyourbored.com
    September 14, 2011 at 3:37 pm #

    can you add me on facebook or twitter?

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